I'm a love-oholic. I've professed that fact previously on this blog. So today when I was in the midst of figuring out the logistics of having a wedding at night (since candles would be really pretty but then what about the reception... see it's very problematic!) I realised what marriage means. It means pledging to be a monogamist for the rest of your life except of course for those crazy cults which let you marry more than once. After that realisation to my horror all of these problems with monogamy started to pop into my head and as much as I tried to push them away they stayed there... So I'll put all of my thoughts into this blog.
Firstly there are slightly more males than females in the world (thanks to China undoubtedly). The world consists of 50.25% men. Unfortunately that means that in fact there can't be someone for everyone else. But maybe the leftover men are gay? Then they'll have someone. But that means that there will be fewer women because of the lesbians. Basically in the end it means that there will always at the end of the day be some people left alone. It's just like in primary school when the teacher would ask the class to partner up. Then at the end when everyone had grabbed their best friend (with whom they'd exchanged a plastic half heart so it was truly best friendship) there was always the weird kid left behind. That kid would join a partnership and form a threesome. See we are taught from a very young age to never exclude anyone. Monogamy excludes people.
Secondly it makes no biological sense. That's because of genetic variation. By mating with one mate for your whole life then all of your offspring are going to be a mixture of only two peoples DNA. It doesn't mix up the alleles. Whereas by choosing a new mate each season then your children have a far greater genetic variation and therefore they are more likely to survive if conditions were to become adverse. That's the reason that only 7% of mammals are monogamous (yes I visited the wikipedia monogamy page). Yet for some weird reason we humans have decided to be monogamous.
I guess it all comes back to our higher intellect. Back in the days when a father was giving his daughter away he'd give her away to someone who would look after her (perhaps that's why they have the dowry system in India (paying someone to look after their daughter)). And try as you may to refute it it is impossible to look after 2 or more people to the best of your ability since the best of your ability would be dedicating all of your time to them and that's not possible with more than one person. Hence we are monogamous.
Despite the genetic and logistical flaws in monogamy I still believe in that corny cliche that there is someone out there for everyone else. If instead I believed that I'd spend my entire life searching for someone only to find that due to the large amount of gay men in the world the number of mates had changed and in fact there was no one left for me. Well then I'd be a clinical freak and rather sad and that's not a way to live.
3 GOOD THINGS
*Ginger Crunch
*Being able to start a conversation with 'I see you've returned' and having the other person know exactly what you're on about.
* Chuck fan videos my guilty pleasure
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